As a counselor, I thought I had dealt with my husband’s death. On my weekend, I realized that I had never cried for my loss.
Beginning Experience was one of the best things that ever happened to me.
I was lost and frightened after I left my husband.
I found a sense of peace at Beginning Experience and I am getting stronger each day.
Three years after my husband’s death, I thought I was coping pretty well. I was so wrong.
Beginning Experience changed me into a much happier person.
I went to Beginning Experience after my divorce. It was amazing! It got me out of the obsessive cycle of beating myself up.
I recommend it all the time.
As a widow of 7 years, I was skeptical about going to Beginning Experience. I felt no one would understand my pain. The weekend literally saved my life.
I found the peace I so longed for.
I was divorced – the worst thing that ever happened to me.
Beginning Experience centered me in my faith, and got me through feelings of rejection, loneliness and anger.
When my husband left, I thought the good times in life were over.
But the best was yet to be, and it started with Beginning Experience.
My wife of 38 years passed away two years ago.
Beginning Experience allowed me to completely accept my wife’s death and move on with my life.
I had divorced and Beginning Experience sounded like a way to regain my self-image.
I found just what I needed – the hope that I could recover and start my life again.
It had been two years since my husband’s death. I saw a notice in my church bulletin and decided to try Beginning Experience.
I needed healing and this was where I found it.
I came to Beginning Experience after I separated. I was able to let go of years of pain, frustration and guilt.
I am much happier now, and able to express myself in a way that is whole and complete.
I attended Beginning Experience after my husband’s death.
I came away a wiser, more humble person. I had such a good experience.
The program was life changing.
I could share the pain of my wife’s death, and people understood.
Pope Francis on Coping with Loss
“In the People of God, by the grace of his compassion granted in Jesus, many families prove by their deeds that death does not have the last word: this is a true act of faith. Every time a family in mourning — even terrible mourning — finds the strength to guard the faith and love that unite us to those we love, it has already prevented death from taking everything. The darkness of death should be confronted with a more intense work of love. ‘My God, lighten my darkness!’ is the invocation of evening prayer. …
“We can draw from the simple and strong testimony of the many families who have been able to grasp, in the most arduous transition of death, the safe passage of the Lord, Crucified and Risen, with his irrevocable promise of the resurrection of the dead. God’s work of love is stronger than the work of death.”
— General audience, June 17, 2015
Pope Francis on Accompaniment and Mercy after Divorce
“Respect needs to be shown especially for the sufferings of those who have unjustly endured separation, divorce or abandonment. To forgive such an injustice that has been suffered is not easy, but grace makes this journey possible. The local community and pastors should accompany these people with solicitude, particularly when children are involved or when they are in serious financial difficulty.”
“It is important that the divorced who have entered a new union should be made to feel part of the Church. They are not excommunicated and they should not be treated as such, since they remain part of the ecclesial community. Care for these persons is not a weakening of Christian faith and belief in the indissolubility of marriage, but is rather a particular expression of its charity and mercy.”
“It is a matter of reaching out to everyone, of needing to help each person find his or her proper way of participating in the ecclesial community.”
— Excerpts from Amoris Laetitia, March 19, 2016
Questions from a Wounded Heart
Answered by Fr. Dick Mevissen CSsR
These twelve reflections flow out of my long association with divorced persons and those who minister with them in a ministry which strives to assist people to find healing in the midst of almost overwhelming grief and anger associated with the painful end of a marriage in divorce.
-Fr Dick Mevissen
Q: Why can't I forgive and forget?
Q: Why can't I stop hating?